I think the 'just ask questions' advice is wrong, and the Lincoln Memorial proved it to me
Everyone keeps saying the best way to learn about a place is to ask locals questions. I went to the Lincoln Memorial in DC two weeks ago and stood around for about 40 minutes just watching people. What I noticed was that the tourists who walked up and asked questions got short, scripted answers from the rangers, but the people who just sat quietly on the steps for a while noticed things nobody talked about. Like how the marble has these tiny cracks that have been filled in over the decades, or how the echo works differently depending on which step you stand on. I tried asking a ranger about the cracks and he kind of shrugged and said they just maintain it. But an older guy sitting next to me pointed out that some of the filling dates back to right after the 2011 earthquake. He knew because his dad worked on the repairs. That one quiet conversation taught me more than any guided tour ever did. So my take is that asking questions puts people on the spot, but just being present and patient opens up real stories. Has anyone else found that just hanging around a spot gets you better info than asking direct questions?