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It took me 4 months to realize that apology video wasn't actually apologizing
I watched this YouTuber's comeback video back in March and thought wow they finally get it. Then I rewatched it yesterday while folding laundry and caught how they kept saying 'I'm sorry if you were offended' instead of 'I'm sorry for what I did.' Four months of thinking they turned a new leaf and it was just fancy wording. Has anyone else gone back to rewatch old cancelation apologies and noticed things you missed the first time?
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perry.evan8d ago
Notice it all the time now actually. I started paying attention to how people say sorry in my own life after watching all those YouTube apology videos. My buddy borrowed my truck and brought it back with a dent in the door. He said "sorry about the parking lot thing" not "sorry I hit something with YOUR truck." It's the same trick. People soften the blame by making the apology about the situation instead of their actions. I see it with family members too, my cousin says "sorry you're upset" every time she cancels plans last minute. It's like a reflex to protect yourself instead of actually owning up to what you did. Makes you wonder how many of us are just going through the motions of apologizing without really meaning it.
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emery_lopez8d ago
Fair enough, but sometimes "sorry you felt that way" is just a clumsy way of saying you regret the outcome.
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cora_scott777d ago
That idea about "sorry about the parking lot thing" from @perry.evan really connects to what you're saying, because both phrases shift the focus away from personal responsibility. I think a lot of people genuinely don't realize they're doing it, they just grab whatever words make the moment less awkward. But it does matter because when you hear "sorry you felt that way" it feels like they're apologizing for your reaction, not for what they actually did.
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