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The 'I Can Fix Him' meme used to be funny but now it feels like people are seriously justifying red flags, what changed?
Back in 2019 the meme was just a sarcastic joke about dating bad boys, but now I see people posting it unironically about actual concerning behavior like controlling texting habits or financial irresponsibility, did the internet shift from laughing at this to excusing it over the last 3 years?
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the_piper26d ago
Oh man, I feel this way too hard. I literally watched a friend post that meme about a guy who flipped out on her for hanging out with her own friends, and she was like "he just cares so much." It stopped being funny around 2021 when people started treating red flags like personality quirks. I had a friend who swore she could "fix" a guy who literally forgot her birthday three times in a row because he was "distracted by work." The joke got replaced by people genuinely believing love means tolerating bad behavior, and I think social media made everyone think emotional baggage is cute or something. Now I just roll my eyes when I see it, because half the time it's someone rationalizing why their partner's obvious issues are actually endearing.
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claire_ramirez26d ago
The birthday thing really gets me. Three times in a row, that's not forgetfulness, that's a choice. Did your friend ever realize she was wasting her time, or is she still trying to fix him? What was the breaking point for you when you stopped seeing that stuff as jokes and started seeing it as people lying to themselves? I've got a cousin who's been with a guy for five years who still can't keep a job, and she posts those memes about how he's just "too creative for corporate life." It's like watching someone drown in slow motion. When did everyone decide that having standards made you the bad guy?
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